he is about to turn 2.
in other words, ive been a mother to my son for 2years,
a parent to a child
me, a parent?!!
erkk..
approaching two means alot to me :
(i) tht he is growing up real fast
(ii)and tht i have to start reading about stimulating a 2 year old
(iii) questioning myself am i feeding him enough?
(iv) then the "am i raising him right?"
(v) yes, the constant "am i ACTUALLY raising him right??"
how does one raise a human being?
from experience is my two second answer.
meaning if we were brought up in an environment which encourages dreaming big, trying out possibilities that is how one tends to bring up its offspring...
but then again, from experience as well , a parent tends to reverse it,
for example, a mother who grew up with nothing, would then pamper the child on things she had never had...
either way, the q remains valid for both situation, how does a mother knows she is raising it right?
i am very fortunate to have parents who instill in us the importance of education and insyallah this is something i will further push for bb ash... but is this enough? is this just the way i want to raise my son, educated?
i remembered when growing up, my mother always made sure i 'salam' every guest, then during every wedding, she made sure i was involved in the ceremony, be it little things like givng "telur" to the guests to something important like being 'banker' aka standing behind the host with a big bag (usually full of money the guest gives...hehe)
these are the "education", that i as his mother, must ensure i teach him well..
im starting small, im making sure he salams everybody he meets, and alhamdulillah im happy at this age he is brave enough to come up to a stranger and do so (sometimes overdoing it by flykissing haha)
and also ive asked him to pick up his baju kotor and throw it in the laundry bin just before we head to the toilet for his shower
at the same time, i pamper him, but not to the extent that i spoil him. i tell him to always share wht he has, even before he has a sibling (omg 2 children?!!! that is another matter pls!)
to be honest sometimes i feel raising a son is all about studying and tackling human behavior and thank god for that psychology paper i took last time..(it helped me feel less crazy to be honest)
anyways, as i still have no answer to the q,
i believe leading by example is my answer.
my parents raised me to always look at the bright side, that life goes on no matter what, to respect the elderly, to find happiness, to love. to forgive.
and that is wht i will continue in raising bb ashraff, for as long as Allah allows me to,
insyallah
